We all have our “go-to” moves for various life situations and experiences. But do you feel comfortable when you have to break the ice in an awkward conversation or introduce yourself on a first Zoom, date, or get-together? You may have your life “go-to’s” locked down, but what about your career moves?
Here are seven go-to career moves that you should have at the ready to help you maximize real life opportunities.
1. Introducing yourself to strangers at work meetings: Strike a balance between taking over the conversation and being the person who no one remembers. If you want to BE memorable say or do something that will help people remember you, mix things up and begin your intro with “greetings, I used to work with XYZ and today is my one-year anniversary here.” Don’t wait for your boss or co-worker to introduce you. Take the initiative and share one fun fact about you, such as: you sit in the cubicle next to the bathroom (sorry but one day you won’t); work on a particular company-wide project; or with someone who almost everyone in attendance would surely know or want to know.
2. Standing out from the crowd at a networking event: First doing your homework about the keynote speaker or panel members before the event. Then do what most people won’t like sharing a real “relatable” feeling. “These events sometimes make me nervous -- do you have suggestions on how to successfully work a room?” Share commonalities such as: attending the same school, working for the same previous employer, or simply loving the same genre of music. A final word of advice when it comes to sharing things -- tread wisely and think before you speak. Many years ago when I met the Mayor of a major city, I introduced myself by saying that I knew their ex-spouse. I knew it was a bad judgment call the moment I said “I.” Needless to say the response was not warm and fuzzy. A person has an ex-spouse for good reason.
3. Making your proposal memorable: Whether you are submitting a structured response for a Request For a Proposal (RFP) or sending an email to a potential pro bono client, find a unique way to share who you are and what you can do. You can accomplish this by finding a way to weave in a hobby or interest into your core skills or services. Find a way to let others see a glimpse of your personal side and what makes you tick will enable you to better connect with others.
4. Initiating a “cold call” regarding a position or work opportunity: Be proactive. DM, or even reach out to a complete stranger on LinkedIn. Try a proven advertising and media strategy, by posing an interrogative headline. Ask a rhetorical question that you know almost anyone and that specific person would answer “yes” to. Do you remember being 25 years old and having your eye set on your ideal dream job… well that’s me? And, that dream job is working at your organization.
5. Giving an apology: There are times in your professional life when you need to clear up a misunderstanding. When this happens, take a “less is more” approach. You don’t rehash everything that happened or what was said in order to move on. Focus on the three A’s: Acknowledge what happened or what you said was wrong; Apologize for your role in what occurred; and Acquiesce, meaning make some effort to right the wrong and try to ensure it won’t happen again. A go-to phrase to use in almost any situation is “I hope you take/took this in the spirit of what I meant and not as a criticism or attack …”