This week we’re taking a look at the things that may prevent us from being able to Live. Love. Do ®. Here are (7) seven questions to ask yourself to discover if you are preventing yourself from creating positive change in your life and career.
1. Do you daydream about changing your career – but remain stuck in the thought process? Dreams are where things begin, not where they end. Follow through on your dreams by writing (5) five specific plans/steps and things that you can do to make your next idea more than just a thought - but a reality.
2. Are you always appearing in the dress rehearsal instead of starring in the actual performance? If you’re pursuing multiple degrees, constantly taking new courses, or doing things to learn new skills but NEVER putting this learning to use – you may be stuck in a dress rehearsal mentality. Change your perspective by doing at least three (3) three things to practice your new skills and knowledge.
3. Do you rely heavily on other people’s opinions and input when doing something new? Whether you are considering planning a vacation or thinking about changing your hair color or style — stop looking to others to make your decision. Get input and feedback, however, look inward to find that perfect next step. Next time you’re thinking about trying something new, gather the information and then take action.
4. When things go wrong, who is the first person on your list of who is responsible – someone else? There are times when things simply happen to us and are not our fault. However, 80% of the time we find ourselves in negative situations simply because we made wrong choices or bad decisions (or failed to make any decision at all). Next time you find yourself wondering why something is the way it is – challenge yourself to by making a list of (3) three things that you would do differently next time.
5. Do you hold onto jobs, positions, and things longer than you should? The saying, “the devil you know is better than the one you don’t” is often said by people who are afraid to take risks. Routine and comfort are riskier than you realize and because they breed complacency. And, complacency can breed resentment and unhappiness. Continue the opportunities and relationships that help you to grow (even in little ways) and expand your experience and network.
6. Do you look to other people for a roadmap on how to live your life? Learn from the experiences and mistakes of others but create your own path to living the life you want. Next time you are tempted to make a life choice based solely on how it worked out for someone else – STOP! Remind yourself that no two people travel the same life path and make a decision that is right for you.
7. Do you say you don’t have the time or money to make career and life changes yet find yourself spending time and money on things that really don’t matter or that help you achieve your goals? It’s tempting to say that you can be a cheerleader for others but not for yourself. When in fact, the real reason you focus on others may be because you are afraid to take risks and make changes for yourself. Refusing to embrace a change is something that can keep you professionally stuck for years.