If your opportunity of a lifetime showed up at your door - would you know who you should you partner with, work for, or even trust professionally? Everyone can hone their instincts and judgement by brushing up on your ability to read people, places and things. Here are seven guidelines to help you determine who to work, how to position yourself in the best light, and when (if necessary) to run in the opposite direction.
1. Notice people’s behavior and how they act around others: Words are nice – but deeds show you what is really matters. Forget what people say, and remember that when people show you who they are believe them.
2. Don’t share too much about your personal life: Always try to position yourself as busier than you really are. For example, anything you do off the clock should be referred to as a meeting.
Your kid is in the school play - it’s a meeting. You have a root canal appointment - it’s a meeting. Don’t lose power in a future negotiation, because someone thinks or know that you have lots of time on your hands. 3. Keep up physical and figurative appearances: People who are “all talk” tend to hang around other people who aren’t doing much of anything themselves. Dress for the job you want, and not the one you currently have. Asking a few key questions about who else is currently committed or participating in the project before you decide to join the project, company or venture. Note who is overdressed for the part and those who try hard to be something they are not.
4. Observe what people wear: It has been said that you can tell a lot about a man from his shoes and his watch; and a lot about a woman from her handbag and her hands. If someone claims to be a real “baller” or “shot caller” yet doesn’t dress the part – buyer beware.
5. Don’t speak or reveal more than necessary: If you are approached about an opportunity be mindful to share too much, too soon. The business world is not the place for confession (or therapy). Don’t feel that you must tell people everything you are thinking or experiencing. In fact, sometimes it’s better to sit back and say little to nothing.
6. Kiss the Don’s or Queen Bee’s ring: Especially in large companies, introduce yourself and pay compliments to the key movers and shakers. If you cannot reach out directly, see if you can enlist the help of your supervisor or VP. Simply reaching out to the key players in your company, field or industry can put you on the company radar and open opportunities.
7. Let people know you are ready and willing: Ensure that you are open and receptive to new opportunities and experiences by telling people. Letting your boss/supervisor know that you are interested in participating company-wide committees or initiatives. Everyday there is the potential to meet a new colleague or embark in a new venture if you are flexible and ready to try/do something new.
There will always be opportunities that present themselves in unique ways and at unexpected times. Practice learning how to assess and evaluate people and potential ventures that will help you gain or take away something positive. This week assess your skills and ability to see others clearly; and develop a plan to cultivate and hone these important skills.