May 17, 2017 “Ask Patrice”

Dear Patrice, I recently worked on a project that had some problems and minor issues. How should I discuss this situation with my boss?

Here’s a three-step process to position yourself and your work in the best possible light moving forward:

1. You should proactively raise the issue FIRST and not wait for your boss to do so. Acknowledge the fact that things should have played out differently but stick to the facts. I have had people literally apologize for things I never knew had occurred, so chances are your supervisor may not know every detail. After the conversation, outline and/or draft a brief summary of the obvious “mistakes” and what you and others will do in the future to prevent it from happening again.

2. Now that you have told your boss what she or he needs to hear, you need to look for the root cause of the problem. Did things not work out according to plan because there was no organization, because things were left until the last minute, or because others dropped the ball? Or was it simply a matter of unclear expectations. For example, you CAN control how long others speak by both advising them well in advance that there is a 5-minute limit but, by also having a “moderator” and process in place to jump in - when they don’t. Your goal is to uncover the real reason things will be different. Remember, the best way to prove this is to not just TELL others what will happen but to SHOW them the next time around.

3. Your ability to bounce back from mistakes and all that life dishes out is all about attitude. Embrace a growth perspective where you seek to learn from everything that happens, especially those things that don’t end up well.

Mistakes happen despite our best laid out plans. This week think of these and other ways to communicate, grow from, and create success from mistakes and mishaps. Remember that life is what happens while we’re making (and hopefully learning from) other plans.

Ask Patrice – How can I improve my finances to make a career move, when I don’t make lots of money?

Now that Tax Day has come and gone you may be more focused on your finances. Enhancing your financial picture is difficult but possible if you simply change your approach to “saving.” Aside from taking on a side hustle or new job with a better salary, the best way to put more money in your pocket is not to make more but rather to reduce your expenses. Here are seven easy things that you can do to instantly shave hundreds off your monthly bills.

1. Select a more cost effective phone and Internet service provider: Years ago when I worked at AT&T I learned that customer service reps are required to tell you about ways to reduce your bill – but only if you ask. It’s still something that very few people take advantage of. Call your service provider and ask, “what is the best (i.e., most cost effective) plan based on my calling and data usage habits?”

2. Request a lower interest rate on credit card debt: Again, this is something that can be done – IF you ask. This courtesy can be extended to anyone, not only the “best customers” with perfect credit. Call your credit card company and explain that you saw another credit card with a much lower interest rate and are thinking of transferring your current balance to another company. Many financial institutions will offer you a lower rate on the spot. If they don’t, ask to speak to a supervisor in the “loyalty” department. Remember, saving even 2% off your current interest rate can translate into more than a hundred dollars over the course of the year.

3. Tap into employee or association discounts: Did you know that working for local, state, or federal government agencies (including College’s and Universities) or select private sector companies qualifies you for government and reduced rates at hotels? These rates are sometimes as much as 25% cheaper than what you can find online. You also may be eligible to receive discounted prices at stores, restaurants or transportation providers like Amtrak for being a member/alumni of a college/university, professional association, or organizations like AAA. Before booking that summer vacation, research your eligibility for discounts offers and rates.

4. Return or sell new and unused items for cash or store credit: Take those unused clothes with the tags still on back to the store. Many companies will offer you a store credit for things you don’t want or can’t use. Look into stores that will buy your items outfight or on a consignment basis (i.e., they keep 60% and you get 40% of whatever sells). Use the newly found money/credit for something you really need.

5. Swap cable for a streaming service: If you are still paying for cable tv - STOP! Changing to a service such as Sling, Hulu or Netflix can quickly save you money.

6. Change your withholdings on your W-2 income: Increasing the number of withholdings on your W-2 income can mean less of a tax return at the end of the year but more money in your pocket each month. Even if you are single with 0 dependents, you can claim multiple withholdings. Check with your HR department for more information.

7. Reduce your personal expenses: We’ve all heard of the “latte” factor – being able to save hundreds of dollars a year by cutting out daily and weekly trips to Starbucks and other expensive coffee shops. Similarly, you can cut back on entertaining – a primary contributor of long-term financial problems. Make it cool and fun to be thrifty by going “all you can eat”or bringing your lunch and eating with co-workers who are doing the same. On the weekends, invite friends over instead of the expensive night out. Do whatever you can to minimize what you spend. Encourage your friends and family to do take the savings challenge with you and together find and share creative ways to cut costs.

Financing a career change at any age or stage is doable with a little creativity and effort. Even if you are living paycheck to paycheck, everyone can make little changes to create big savings. This week stop your financial grind and start working smarter not harder when it comes to “saving” by reducing your expenses.

April 19, 2017 Seven Things to Think About When It Comes to – Where is Your Confidence?

Confidence is like a sense of humor, everyone thinks that they have it but less than 20% of people actually do. In fact, confidence is an essential ingredient for success in life and career.

The only way to know for sure if you have confidence is to test it. So here are seven questions to help you determine where your confidence really lies, as well as simple but crucial things you can do to boost your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish.

1. What professional accomplishment are you most proud of? 

Your ability to simply have an answer to this question is key to measuring your true confidence. If your accomplishment happened more than 5 years ago, you may be badly in need of a shot of confidence. Confident people can site accomplishments from last week, last month or last year. Stretch yourself to identify recent successes. They are critical to help you reinforce your potential of having other successes in the future.

2. What is the first thing that you can do to create positive change in your life and career?  

Did you say, “change myself or the way that I think?” If not, you should have. Confidence is intertwined with self-awareness and living in the present, not with arrogance and blaming of others. If you’re stuck on what you didn’t get as a child or all the things other people have done to you/your life and not on yourself – not only is your confidence lacking - your approach to advancing in life is all wrong. Today embrace this – focusing on what you don’t have or cannot do interferes with what you can. 

 
3. Do you think you can do anything you set your mind to?  

Whether you are right or wrong – simply thinking that you have the talent and skills to achieve your goals is 80% of doing so. Chances are you will not accomplish everything exactly as you imaged it but taking 10 minutes a day to visualize yourself achieving a goal will increase the potential for success. Learn how to “see” every goal having a positive outcome. It WILL help you believe it is possible.  


4. What is the last big risk you took and how did it work out?  

If your immediate reaction to this question is thinking whatever you tried was a huge failure, you need to embrace a new definition of failure and what it really means. Success in one endeavor often happens after “failure” in another. Failure is a necessary part of trying anything new. Just because something did not work out exactly as you planned – means just that – it didn’t work as planned. It does not mean that it or you are a failure. Things not working out teaches you how to make adjustments but is not a reflection of your talents, abilities and potential. Your ability to see opportunity regardless of outcome is critical to success. Boost this part of your confidence by practicing how to not take “no” personally.  

 
5. What is the biggest thing standing between you and your desired goals?  

Hopefully your answer is “time” or “money.” However, if your response was “waiting for the right opportunity to come along” - think again. Confident people create (not wait) for opportunities. If your confidence is at a 10 - you know that the only thing standing in between your dreams and goals – is you! Remind yourself daily that you are the only one who can connect yourself with the right people and situations to make your dreams a reality..  


6. What do you say to yourself to stay inspired and motivated?  

You should be able to site at least five things that have nothing to do with other people. Confident people are usually motivated by prior success and possibility. They also feel that they deserve (and therefore expect) greatness. Ask yourself this – if you can only motivate others but cannot do the same for yourself is that just a way of sidestepping the reality that you are lacking some much needed personal confidence?   

 
7. What is your biggest regret?  


 Idealy you live life believing that everything happens for a reason. Mistakes, setbacks and failed projects/relationships are not things to regret but rather things to learn from and make you a better person. Life is about taking chances and putting it all on the line – that way you know you have done all that you can do and there is nothing to regret. Embrace risks and seek to learn from every life and career experience – and remind yourself that nothing should be regretted.  



Honesty is the best policy when it comes to dealing with your strengths and weaknesses, and your confidence. This week take an honest and hard look at what you really believe you can do and achieve. It’s easy to say you have confidence but far more revealing to ask yourself these critical questions and take a hard look at the honest answers.  

April 5, 2017 Seven Things to Think About When It Comes to Figuring Out Whether Your Are Stuck or If You’re in a Professional Holding Pattern.

The Living on Purpose Project recently celebrated our 2nd anniversary on April 1, 2017. It was a great opportunity to celebrate where we have been and to get excited by what lies ahead. However, sometimes you reach a milestone yet don’t feel like you have anything to celebrate because you feel stuck.

The next time you are feeling like you are in a rut or in a place you don’t want to be – consider that you are in a professional holding pattern. Here are seven common career holding patterns and how to adopt a new perspective when facing them.

1. I hate my job:

Most people experience this feeling a few times throughout their lives, often early on and in the middle of their careers.

Turn your frustration into motivation by making a list of everything this crappy experience is teaching you about what not to do and what type of job you want to be sure to avoid moving forward.

2. I don’t know what I really want to do:

Start by reading the Living on Purpose Project interviews and posts (arranged by topic in our Archives). Then begin doing whatever you are interested in. Think you’d like a job as a social media specialist? Help a friend develop social media pages and posts for their small or new business. Sometimes you can improve your job satisfaction by simply doing more of what you love outside of the office.

3. I can’t make a lateral move into another dept or area:

Unfortunately, you may have to leave your current organization in order to be considered for a bigger and brighter opportunity. Companies of all sizes generally focus their time and energy on senior executives – making opportunities for everyone else non-existent.

4. I am in business for myself but can’t find any new clients or customers:

Schedule time to socialize. Social events are a great place to network professionally. Mix things up and hang with a new crowd of like-minded people. Doing so might be just the thing to clear you for takeoff into something new and put an end to your holding pattern.

5. I can’t find another job:

In today’s competitive landscape, you need to consider jobs that you are overqualified for and underpaid to do - at least initially. In time you can leverage that experience to find a bigger and brighter one. In the meantime, take time to review your resume and see if there are things that may actually be hindering you from getting hired. Does your resume demonstrate you are an industry “outsider” because of the lingo you use? Changing a few key words and adding more industry-related experience could help you stand out from the competition.

6. I want to launch my own business or take it to the next level but don’t have the money:

Start with a strong plan and a dynamic web site that highlights your work and experience, and helps you cast a wide net to find potential clients. However, the best way to raise the needed capital is to create a side-hustle while working for someone else.

7. I have tried many things to put myself out there but nothing seems to be working:

Be creative and persistent, and you may simply have to give it time. Many holding patterns are necessary – while the next great job or opportunity is waiting to present itself. Maximize your time waiting by staying focused on what you have learned that can be applied to your next move/opportunity.

Anniversaries and milestones are often fun but can sometimes be depressing and make us feel that we are not where we want/think we should be. This week consider that you may be exactly where you are supposed to be right now. Instead of feeling stuck or in a rut, think of it as a necessary holding pattern to prevent you from taking another job or opportunity that is not right for you. Keep positive, perfect your skills and your craft, and learn from your interactions with everyone you meet. Sooner than you think, that next opportunity you’ve been waiting for will present itself.

February 15, 2017 Ask Patrice about . . . what should I do when it looks like my supervisor or company are planning to fire me?

Unfortunately, we have all had jobs that were great but we’ve also had several that sucked. If the writing on the wall says there is a strong chance that you and/or your position are on the chopping block, here are seven things to protect you and create leverage in your departure.

1. Connect with human resources, labor relations, and your employee “handbook.” Learn your rights (i.e., does the government agency allow all permanent employees to have up to a year before they can be let go). It’s always good to know starting every job if you can be fired “at will.” All companies are different but most can simply let you go whenever they want to. Understand your review process and if you have had previous positive evaluations of your performance; present a good argument as to why you believe it has changed.

2. Understand the politics: It could be as simple as your VP wants to hire her former colleague and friend to have your job – because that’s her friend. If it’s a personality issue, chances are it will never be resolved in your favor (especially if the conflict is with senior staffers). So dust off your “C.Y.A.” (Cover Your Ass) file that you should have started the moment you got hired. Every “great job” email and “thanks for the help” Post It, (and a copy) of anything positive that internal and external clients have said about you. It’s not too late; ask a current client and others to write a letter about your most recent successful project or general letter of reference. After you have the positive feedback, create a one page summary of your major accomplishments.

3. Document everything: In addition to your CYA file, you need to keep a DAILY log of all communications and connections with others. Did your SVP cancel your review meeting for the 5th time? Are you excluded from meetings? Anything and everything needs to be recorded.

4. Understand the other issues: Unfortunately even in 2017 people are still discriminated against because of their race, age, sexual orientation, gender, religion and much more. If you have solid evidence that this is much more than someone simply not “liking you.” Consult with an employment lawyer to help you better understand your legal options, but most likely to help negotiate your exit with the most money in your pocket. For example, let’s say you’ve worked at a job for the past two years and it’s simply not working out with your new SVP. An employment attorney may be able to guide you to help request and negotiate that the company will pay one week for every year and to NOT contest unemployment.

5. Strategize with professional mentors and contacts that might have knowledge and expertise of both the process and the key players: Truth is you may not want to or be able to pay a retainer and hire an attorney, but you can tap into the “intellectual property” of others. Cast a wide net and ask others for advice and even perhaps how they navigated the same or a similar situation.

6. Circle back with HR: Present all positive evaluations, feedback and input. Communicate your desire to explore potential ways that you can part ways from your employer. Unemployment benefits, extended healthcare or company paid benefits, outplacement services (i.e., help with resume and recruiters).

7. Walk Away: If you have tried all that you could with or without the advice of legal counsel, and you’ve gotten the best severance package you can get, take it and move on. At some point your happiness and freedom to find a new job that you love is worth so much more. As you leave, work on developing the story you will tell to other professional contacts and potential employers.

It sucks to be fired even from a job that you hate. Even if you only have a couple of years of experience, you still may be able to get more than a “thank you and good luck to you.” Brush up on your negotiation and networking skills and assemble a dream team to help assist you with a graceful “positive” exit.

January 18, 2017 ASK PATRICE . . . When It Comes to Negotiating a Higher Salary, Even with Less Than 5-7 Years of Experience.

Each month we are going to feature a question from a Living on Purpose Project (LOPP) fan or follower and provide “straight no chaser” career advice from our CEO and Founder, Patrice Anderson. If you have a career-related question you’d like to ask, please comment on social media or directly email us atlivingonpurposeproject@gmail.com

“I have almost five years of experience, and less than two in my desired field. I have been offered a position at a mid-size company doing what I like but the salary is the same as my current position at a larger firm. How can I negotiate a higher salary?”

Negotiating is something I am lucky to have learned, literally from some of the best in the business. Here are secrets to asking for a higher salary and other forms of compensation. Following them will take your negotiation skills from shaky to successful in no time:

1. Wear your poker face: Letting others know what you’re thinking is the kiss of death when it comes to any negotiation. So don’t do it. Play it cool, and act as if you have MANY options and have done this before. Even if this is your first job offer in 2 years or you don’t have a clue about negotiation – act as if.

2. Six degrees of separation: Gather as much intelligence on the key players as you can. Who are the decision makers? How long have they been with the organization?
Know their successes and weaknesses, as well as who they have worked and gone to school with. Effective name dropping is effective. Create and start to cultivate a connection through shared associates and experiences. Your ultimate goal is to motivate them to believing that you are the candidate they MUST have.

3. Charm to disarm: My grandmother always told me – “you catch more bees with honey than you do with _ _ _ _.” Be pleasant and honest. People will know when you are overdoing it – so start with basic niceties like their appearance or a good point they made. Then move up to say and show the appropriate amount of deference and your respect. You can kill any deal simply by rude behavior and poor business etiquette

4. Demonstrate and prove others are being paid more: Talk in a non-threatening way about how the position you are considering is extremely similar or exact to another in the company/field/industry. A position that is paid at a higher salary. Something like “the positon you describe sounds more like (INSERT ONE LEVEL HIGHER) and detail all that you are being expected to do. Pay note to supervising even an intern. If it’s an assistant positon say it sounds like a “coordinator.” If they call it a manager say it sounds like a senior manager or director.

Your goal is to point to other people doing the same job for more money. If you need to build a better case – highlight that you know the previous person to hold that position had fewer responsibilities. And, to seal the deal offer to take on another project, area or department to clearly demonstrate the significant increase in job responsibilities – and to give them leeway to adjust the salary.

5. Highlight your negatives: After explaining your sincere interest and aptitude to do the job at hand – mention the “down side” for you. Will your commute time/expense double? Are you leaving a more well-known or prestigious brand or company? Share as they say, the “facts.”

Then remind them of what impressed them about you in the interview or prior meeting and share three (3) strong industry and/or career accomplishments. Reinforce this “negative” message with your desire to be a part of their team.

6. Ask rhetorical questions: People are more likely to be flexible and concede when they don’t feel confronted. Making your comments (and even reservations) into rhetorical questions is a great way to prevent things from going “left” (at best) or contentious (at worst).

Saying something like, “I really want the positon but I wish that there was some way I could not have the added expense of commuting?” or “The position is great but it really sounds much like an Account Executive, not a Coordinator, which I know has a much higher salary?

7. Be direct about the extras: Depending on the company, you should ask about signing bonus, performance based stock options, assistance with relocation or moving costs, and increased transportation. These pay outs may not come in lump sum, one-time payment but – money is money.

Everything in life is negotiable and everything in life requires some form of negotiation. Stop limiting your career options by lacking knowledge and experience in negotiating with people at all levels.

This week start by practicing some of these tips, reading more about the topic, and enlisting a friend to role-play the part of your future employer.

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December 28, 2016 Seven Things to Think About When It Comes To . . . Great Career Advice From a Dog.

I read a great quote about dogs that said that dogs are the only animal on the planet that love you more than they love themselves. Thought that was very powerful. Here are seven amazing professional lessons that my dog taught me about working with others.

1. Body language: 80% of most communication is actually non-verbal. So when in doubt “read” others to see if they are a threat to you. Observe everything – eye contact, stance, types of questions they ask (or lack thereof).

2. Solid business relationships are based on trust, loyalty, and respect: Associate with those who you can build, grind and hustle together.

3. Maintain clear boundaries and expectations give to others: Enough said!

4. Dog fights are ugly and intense but sometimes required: Some things are worth fighting for such as integrity, your professional worth, respect and what is rightfully yours. When your friends, family or your character is attacked turn fight with your words and actions.

5. Trust your instincts: Know when a person or situation seeks to harm or take advantage of you. You know when something does not look kosher, go the other way. Watch those showboating, lying or those saying things that just don’t add up. Hone your instincts by trusting that when you feel someone or something is not right in your gut – you’re probably right.

6. All dogs are different: Remember that everyone has a story that is deeper than the person who you see. Build relationships slowly and over time unpeel the layers of each person you encounter.

7. Learn new tricks: Despite your age or experience you can always hone and learn new ways to do things. Keep an open mind and you’ll find that there is something to be happy about daily. Share that happiness with others.

I have owned a dog since I was 7 years old and believe dogs will always be a part of my life. This week appreciate and reflect on the roles animals have played in teaching you some “human” life lessons. Or if you are not an animal person, try to appreciate and learn from them in other ways. Happy New Year!

December 21, 2016 Things To Think About When It Comes To . . . Looking for and Finding Inspiration And Opportunities in The Oddest Places

Yesterday I turned on the TV at 5:30 a.m. hoping to find something inspirational to kick start my day that would officially start in about an hour. I stumbled upon an interesting piece on Gloria Steinem on OWN and it brought back a great memory of when I met Gloria Steinem because of a hand-written card.

While working for NBC, I met Carole Black when she was the President and General Manager of the NBC owned station in Los Angeles NBC4. Soon after, I heard that she took a job in NYC as the new President and CEO of Lifetime Television. I sent her a short “congratulations way to go” note and got a call back from her assistant about a week later. The assistant passed along Carole’s thanks and a special invite for me to be Carole’s “plus 1” at an upcoming 65th birthday party for Gloria Steinem at Phil Donahue and Marlo Thomas’ house! I guess CEO’s don’t get a lot of “congrats on your new gig and huge executive parachute plan” cards.

I will always remember so many things about that great night, such as the 39 other incredible guests and meeting and talking with a living legend. But what still amazes me is that this all happened because of a simple note.

Here are seven things that this unusual string of events in my life and a personal card and thank you note actually taught me about having a successful career.

1. At any moment, you can do something small to put a big opportunity into motion down the road.

2. Career success comes from cultivating professional and personal relationships. People want to work with people they know and like.

3. There are rich people, there are the wealthy people and there are people who are rich because how they have created, navigated and shared their life experiences. Everyone, including you, can be one, two, or hopefully all three.

4. Never underestimate the value of business and social etiquette (if you don’t know it – learn it quickly.) Always remember please and thank you are words that have tremendous power.

5. Celebrities and accomplished professionals in many ways are not like everyday people. However, every human being needs to hear that others are proud of who they are, as well as what they do.

6. Seize every moment to network and learn from people, especially those who you may never see again. I met many people and business associates that day who have impacted my career.

7. Always bring your host a gift or small token of your appreciation. I brought Gloria Steinem a book of poetry, and even bravely gave her an original work of my own. I also sent Carole Black one darn nice thank you note for inviting me and proving such as great networking opportunity.

Find inspiration to tackle a new venture by first simply reflecting on something you’ve previously done that worked out better than you imagined, then take your first step toward doing this new thing. This week take a moment to reflect on these lessons learned and consider who you could send a “personal note” that might directly or indirectly help you experience something great?

November 29, 2016 Seven Things to Think about When It Comes to . . . Maxims That Can Change Your Career

What is a maxim? Maxims are general truths, fundamental principles, rules of conduct and guidelines, and proverbial sayings. Our two Living on Purpose Project maxims “Live. Love. Do.” and “Living Life With Exclamation!” not only guide our efforts but serve as our guiding philosophy. This week we want to share maxims that have helped others find success as both full-time employees, freelance and consultant career. We hope that they can also change your ability to explore and secure new opportunities and ventures.
1. There are (3) three steps between you and your passion: 1. Do what you love.

2. Do what comes naturally. 3. Do what connect you to and help others live, love and do better.

2. Whatever you do ensure it includes a chance to help others: Always pursue opportunities that create the chance to help loved ones and strangers.

3. The customer rules: Even if they are “wrong” the customer should always think they are right. Listen intently to what is meaningful to your clients/customers i.e., their needs. Educate them on a practical and an emotional level. Build something so uniquely perfect and psychologically appealing that customers MUST have it, even if they never thought of it or imagined it possible.

4. Never give up: Persistence, perseverance, patience and “please” are four power words that can transforms opinions, the way people think and what they do.

5. Evoke and adapt: Our playing field (life) is always changing. Focus less on results and more on learning experiences. Think big and create partnerships that allow you to evolve and grow. If you need confidence, “act as if” and cling onto others’ positive beliefs of you – until your own belief kicks in.

6. Discover your nature is to create: Find something that someone else has done and improve that “thing” by adding your unique twist. Then strive to do it better than anyone else in the world. Find it and bring it to the others.

7. Simplify and go: Rely on the expertise of others but trust your own instincts. Ask what you don’t know and share with others the things you do. Command cooperation and respect, at every age and stage, and believe in your dreams. Maintain and hone peripheral vision because breakthrough ideas, products, or ventures appear out of the corner of your eye. And finally, never forget to always remember opinion is not fact.

This week take seven minutes to write three career maxims that you’ll use to continue to guide you to navigate career choices and changes, and keep you grounded on your goals.

November 9, 2016 Seven Things to Think About When It Comes to . . . Things That Suck but That We Can’t Change (At the Moment)

Sometimes despite our best efforts things simply don’t work out, or happen or move as fast as we’d like. We all have to deal with difficult career-related things of which we have no control. Here are some suggestions to deal with some common challenges.

1. Getting passed over for a promotion: It doesn’t matter whether you’re a CEO or an entry-level worker, having to continue working for the same company after being turned down for a promotion doesn’t make anyone feel good. It sucks! However, don’t let this situation define you. If you believe you were qualified for the position, use this opportunity to “read the writing on the wall” and see why the decision makers may not be in your corner. Let this be the much needed motivation to dust off your resume and get moving on finding another job.

2. Needing to forego your dreams to deal with a personal or family situation: We all have responsibilities to other people. At times we need to put our dreams on hold to help those closest to us. If you are in a holding pattern, remind yourself that all dreams deferred don’t “dry up like a raisin in the sun” and die. Some can actually gain momentum and even gain greater intensity after time has passed. Use your waiting time to refocus on your own dreams and your career goals. Sometimes no, isn’t no forever, just “no” for right now.

3. You’re in over your head at work: Many times you may need to “act as if” in order to get a job or be considered for an opportunity. However, once you’ve gotten it, you may soon find that you aren’t able to do key aspects of the job or handle the pressure of the environment. Ask someone, preferably outside the organization, for help. I have helped many people navigate the first few months of a new job by ‘ghost-writing” key reports and presentations on their behalf. If you can’t find people or resources to provide you the needed support, consider creating a Plan B or, if needed, to bow out gracefully. Ideally, you should be the first to say that things aren’t working perfectly and to propose a “back up” plan. Identify someone (internally or externally) to assist you with the project or your job overall. Keep in mind that doing this runs the risk of losing your job. However, it’s far better to admit that you are unable to do something (well in advance of a deadline) or a few weeks or months in, than to drag out the inevitable and possibly destroy a professional bridge and your reputation in the process.

4. You can’t get out of a work rut: You try to pursue different positions at your current job or even work on new projects, but you simply can’t get out of your career rut. Find a way to break away and recharge your batteries. Visit a friend or family member in another city, take a “mental health day” off from work or, simply do little and low cost things to change your routine like get a Mani/Pedi or buy/download a new book. The best way to break a rut is to change the way you think, which in turn will affect your actions and the reactions they create.

5. Dealing with being unemployed: Do your best to keep yourself busy and your thoughts positive. As long as you are doing something every single day to change your employment status, be patient and creative with your time – things will happen. You might not be able to control when the job offers come but you certainly can take hold of how you creatively manage your time. Create a blog sharing your ups and downs of unemployment or showcasing your interest or hobby. Remember, in order to have something that you’ve never had, you often have to do things that you’ve never done.

6. They are planning to outsource or phase out your position: If you are currently working in an industry or department that you know in time will soon be downsized or eliminated entirely, start creating a plan for the future today. You may not be able to stop the axe from chopping your job but you should and can start exploring new opportunities for when, and not if, that occurs. I know many people who work in journalism and publishing who have successfully evolved and grown along with the industry – enabling them to not only stay employed but remain in demand.

7. You are still waiting for the temporary (or part-time) job that you were told would become permanent: Many opportunities start as short-term or temporary assignments but in time can become full-time jobs. If you are currently in this situation, and even if the date that you should have gotten your permanent title has long passed, keep giving 110%. You don’t want to lose steam and have someone make the decision to not to hire you when you lost your passion because things were taking longer than you would have liked.

Just because things have not happened, doesn’t mean they never will. The key is to have and exhibit the 3 Ps – patience, persistence and perseverance. Life and career are not always perfect and at times we all have phases or positions that are really tough – so hold on. This week remind yourself that you might not be able to change things today, but you can change your perspective and put things in place to be prepared when change happens.

October 19, 2016 Seven Things to Think About When It Comes to . . . Things You Never Imagined Could Help Get You Hired in a Hurry

Tired of sending out your resume with no response? Are you finding that all the traditional ways to find a new job are not working? Here are seven surprising things that can help you land a job quickly, along with suggested activities most that you can do in less than 10 minutes. You’ve tried things your way, why not join week three of our #LOPP30daychallenge and see if some new ideas can make a huge difference.

1. Create a professional Pinterest board: Who said Pinterest is only for female foodies, future brides and fashionistas? Pinterest is a new and powerful way to display images and photos of brands, projects and companies that you’ve worked with. It’s also a great platform to profile your professional accomplishments such as, the logo you helped design for a new product package or the beautiful event you produced for more than 500 people. Wow prospective employers and demonstrate that you think outside the box with a beautifully arranged professional Pinterest board.

2. Create a personal website: Create an engaging yourname.com (i.e., personal website) that demonstrates your communications and digital skills, and overall professional experience. Your site should include: a profile that features your professional biography; an e-resume that incorporates social media links to help promote your personal brand; an e-portfolio that showcases your work samples and shares recommendations/references; and possibly a blog that highlights a hobby, interest, or professional skill. (FYI: Having a blog will give you a higher ranking, when prospective employers Google you, than those who don’t). Most importantly a personal website enables you to portray yourself as someone who “lives in color” and has a comprehensive and diverse personal and professional life. Register the domain for your personal website and/or use a site like Wix.com or Weebly.com. Create a one-page outline of the key pages/sections of your future site. Also take a minute to check out Figdig.com and carbonmade.com – two social networks that help people show off their creative skills.

3. Use the lingo: Research your industry’s top 10 buzz words and create an example of how to weave each into your cover letter or during an interview. Select three buzz word and practice using it in an interview answer.

4. Master a 1-minute pitch: Practice and perfect an amazing response for the question “Tell me about yourself?” by sharing a compelling story that emphasizes your relevant skills. Ensure your pitch includes three key parts: (1) intro: start prove you’re the best candidate for the job with an example of where you used and/or enhanced a key job-related skill; (2) middle: promote your personality by sharing your strongest point of differentiation i.e., that one thing that makes you uniquely you; (3) wrap up: end with a “gee-whiz” fact, such as how you got promoted from entry-level worker to a team supervisor in less than 10 months and demonstrating your confidence to hit the ground running in your new role.

Identify the three points and examples you’ll use for your 3-part elevator pitch that can be used both in an interview and one-on-one meeting in any setting. Rehearse each part by saying it out loud in front of a mirror or to a friend orfamily member.

5. Understand and practice the 7 core types of interview questions: Interviews may vary in length, format or even style, however, the content of almost all interviews is usually the same. Take time to prepare and practice your response to the following common interview questions. (1) The Intro: (See above “Tell me about yourself?”). (2)The starters and enders: What are your strengths and your weaknesses? List 3 positives traits and/or skills and one “positive” negative. When asked at the end of the interview, Do you have any questions for me? Always ask at least one question, such as “Can you describe the type of person who excels in your organization?” A question like this will give you great insight into how you might fit in at the organization, as well as points to highlight in your follow up thank-you note. (3) The classics: What were the responsibilities of your last position? and Why have you been unemployed for so long? or Why are you leaving your present job? Keep everything positive, upbeat and concise. (4) The scenarios: Can you give me an example of going above and beyond the call of duty at work? and Describe how you would handle a situation if you were required to finish multiple tasks by the end of the day, and there was no conceivable way to finish them? Again, avoid anything negative and give clear examples. (5) The diplomatic tests: What was your former supervisor’s biggest weakness? and Have you ever worked for someone who took credit for your work/accomplishment? Watch these “traps,” whatever the situation, try to portray it in the most positive light. (6) The self-evaluation: How would you describe your work style? and What additional training or exposure would your last supervisor suggest? These are code for “do you work well with others?” and “what are your professional weaknesses?” (7) The unexpected curveballs: Sell me this pen, and tell me 5 ways to use a pen other than writing? and Tell me why fuzz is on a tennis ball? These questions are less about the actual response and more about demonstrating your ability to think quickly on your feet and to propose any possible answer. Practice one of these questions every day for the next week. Then Google “100 top interview questions” to make a list of other questions you might want to rehearse before your next interview.

6. Practice some unconventional networking prep strategies: Try some nontraditional yet effective ways to prepare for meeting someone new is to Googling them or research the job description of a position you’d love to hold in their organization. Both will give you unique and memorable conversation starters that will be different from 80% of the other people. Before or your next networking event, follow the LinkedIn company page of the keynote and others speakers and search the personal page of someone who currently works for the organization.

7. Make a picture speak a thousand words: Take a few minutes to add some visual interest to your resume. Simply doing little things like using a bold color such as blue, green or purple for your name and headings, or adding logos of the companies you’ve worked for, can help you stand out from the competition.

Studies show that color has a positive effect on our recall and recognition. However, when it comes to including a picture of yourself the experts say save the photography for LinkedIn or email and to not include it in your resume. Think of two visual elements that you can add to your resume to make it “pop.”

Sometimes we need to mix things up in order to create new opportunities. This week think of at least three new things that you can try to help break through the clutter and get you steps closer to a job offer or new business opportunity.

September 21, 2016 Seven Things to Think About When It Comes to . . . Making Professional Friends.

When we are young we have many opportunities to meet and make friends. Going to school, joining a sports team or simply hanging out at the playground – offers us chances to connect with new people. Yet the older we get the harder it seems to make new friends. Whatever age you may be, we all need work friends to support us and help us navigate our careers. In fact, the older we get the more we need to surround ourselves with a strong support network. Here are seven ways to cultivate those relationships and reasons why we need them.

1. A Work BFF: Your best friend shares your interests and is that one person you can confide in no matter what. However, if your “bestie” works in a different field or industry they may not always be the ideal person to turn to when it comes to navigating your career. Take time to cultivate a close relationship with a peer at your workplace. It’s not just a good idea but a necessary asset to succeed at work. Having a work BFF offers a trusted confidant who understands exactly what challenges you may face, as well as someone who can help you best address and overcome them.

2. An Industry Insider: No matter what industry you work in, it’s really important to befriend someone at a different company who knows a lot of people in your field. Industry insiders offer a unique perspective and can be invaluable when it comes to finding and exploring new professional opportunities.

3. The Worker-Bee: Everyone needs people in “high” places to help them succeed, but we also need work friendships with people inside our organization who help us get things done. Pick up a coffee for the receptionist, treat the group admin to lunch, write a personal thank you note to the intern, or buy a $5 Starbucks for the “guys” in the mail room. Continue to cultivate these friendships over time. Years ago I worked with an admin who is now a senior vice president and executive producer at a major TV network! These friends will not only help ensure your package makes the last Fed-Ex pick up, but can also be unexpectedly invaluable sources of information. Often people treat the worker-bees as “invisible” and unknowingly spill the “tea” (i.e. company gossip) in front of them. The bottom line is you should treat everyone you encounter with respect, especially people who are often ignored and forgotten.

4. The Dear Abby: Years ago people wrote to a woman named Ann Landers who had a syndicated newspaper column called Dear Abby when they needed advice on how to deal with a certain problems and situations. Today, you need a professional friend who you can turn to for advice and ideas on how to deal with difficult people, places and things. Find a person who you admire and respect who you can turn to when you face work challenges.

5. A Kindred Spirit: Take advantage of the company office party or a committee project to meet colleagues who work in other departments or divisions. Follow up with people who you “click” with by sending a “nice to meet you email” or ask them out for lunch or coffee. Whether you share a similar sense of humor or style, create a professional friendship with like-minded co-workers in other areas of the company, especially those areas you might want to work in one day.

6. The Common Interest: Where you live, how you dress or where you went to college has nothing to do with who you are personally or professionally but using this information may be a great way to make new friends at work. If you notice a co-worker in the elevator holding a tote bag from your college alma mater or that you recognize from the neighborhood, reach out and introduce yourself. Shared interests can be a great foundation for professional friendships.

7. The Gatekeeper: Every office has a senior leader but every workplace has a gatekeeper who provides access to this top boss. Make an effort to “play nice” with the gatekeeper as he or she has the boss’ ear and the ability to make your life at work a smooth or rough process.

In life, we can all get by with a little help from our friends. The same is true when it comes to our careers. This week think about ways to enhance and expand your work and professional friendships. Remember, people are much more likely to recommend friends for promotions and new opportunities at other organizations - than people they don’t know.