If it hasn’t happened already, at some point in your career you will be invited to a meeting or have a personal meet-and-greet with a senior leader or client. Here are seven (7) important lessons learned working with corporate CEOs/Presidents, commanding generals, managing directors, and celebrities.
Dear Patrice, I recently worked on a project that had some problems and minor issues. How should I discuss this situation with my boss?
Here’s a three-step process to position yourself and your work in the best possible light moving forward:
1. You should proactively raise the issue FIRST and not wait for your boss to do so. Acknowledge the fact that things should have played out differently but stick to the facts. I have had people literally apologize for things I never knew had occurred, so chances are your supervisor may not know every detail. After the conversation, outline and/or draft a brief summary of the obvious “mistakes” and what you and others will do in the future to prevent it from happening again.
2. Now that you have told your boss what she or he needs to hear, you need to look for the root cause of the problem. Did things not work out according to plan because there was no organization, because things were left until the last minute, or because others dropped the ball? Or was it simply a matter of unclear expectations. For example, you CAN control how long others speak by both advising them well in advance that there is a 5-minute limit but, by also having a “moderator” and process in place to jump in - when they don’t. Your goal is to uncover the real reason things will be different. Remember, the best way to prove this is to not just TELL others what will happen but to SHOW them the next time around.
3. Your ability to bounce back from mistakes and all that life dishes out is all about attitude. Embrace a growth perspective where you seek to learn from everything that happens, especially those things that don’t end up well. Mistakes happen despite our best laid out plans. This week think of these and other ways to communicate, grow from, and create success from mistakes and mishaps. Remember that life is what happens while we’re making (and hopefully learning from) other plans.
Now that Tax Day has come and gone you may be more focused on your finances. Enhancing your financial picture is difficult but possible if you simply change your approach to “saving.” Aside from taking on a side hustle or new job with a better salary, the best way to put more money in your pocket is not to make more but rather to reduce your expenses. Here are seven easy things that you can do to instantly shave hundreds off your monthly bills.
1. Select a more cost effective phone and Internet service provider: Years ago when I worked at AT&T I learned that customer service reps are required to tell you about ways to reduce your bill – but only if you ask. It’s still something that very few people take advantage of. Call your service provider and ask, “what is the best (i.e., most cost effective) plan based on my calling and data usage habits?” 2. Request a lower interest rate on credit card debt: Again, this is something that can be done – IF you ask. This courtesy can be extended to anyone, not only the “best customers” with perfect credit. Call your credit card company and explain that you saw another credit card with a much lower interest rate and are thinking of transferring your current balance to another company. Many financial institutions will offer you a lower rate on the spot. If they don’t, ask to speak to a supervisor in the “loyalty” department. Remember, saving even 2% off your current interest rate can translate into more than a hundred dollars over the course of the year. 3. Tap into employee or association discounts: Did you know that working for local, state, or federal government agencies (including College’s and Universities) or select private sector companies qualifies you for government and reduced rates at hotels? These rates are sometimes as much as 25% cheaper than what you can find online. You also may be eligible to receive discounted prices at stores, restaurants or transportation providers like Amtrak for being a member/alumni of a college/university, professional association, or organizations like AAA. Before booking that summer vacation, research your eligibility for discounts offers and rates. 4. Return or sell new and unused items for cash or store credit: Take those unused clothes with the tags still on back to the store. Many companies will offer you a store credit for things you don’t want or can’t use. Look into stores that will buy your items outfight or on a consignment basis (i.e., they keep 60% and you get 40% of whatever sells). Use the newly found money/credit for something you really need. 5. Swap cable for a streaming service: If you are still paying for cable tv - STOP! Changing to a service such as Sling, Hulu or Netflix can quickly save you money. 6. Change your withholdings on your W-2 income: Increasing the number of withholdings on your W-2 income can mean less of a tax return at the end of the year but more money in your pocket each month. Even if you are single with 0 dependents, you can claim multiple withholdings. Check with your HR department for more information. 7. Reduce your personal expenses: We’ve all heard of the “latte” factor – being able to save hundreds of dollars a year by cutting out daily and weekly trips to Starbucks and other expensive coffee shops. Similarly, you can cut back on entertaining – a primary contributor of long-term financial problems. Make it cool and fun to be thrifty by going “all you can eat”or bringing your lunch and eating with co-workers who are doing the same. On the weekends, invite friends over instead of the expensive night out. Do whatever you can to minimize what you spend. Encourage your friends and family to do take the savings challenge with you and together find and share creative ways to cut costs.
Financing a career change at any age or stage is doable with a little creativity and effort. Even if you are living paycheck to paycheck, everyone can make little changes to create big savings. This week stop your financial grind and start working smarter not harder when it comes to “saving” by reducing your expenses.
People hire people they know and like. In fact, most people get hired because of a referral of a friend, family member or former colleague. Therefore, being nice and acknowledging others for their achievements is a great way to forge friendly work relationships. In time, these colleagues and contacts will proactively recommend you for future positions and opportunities. Here are seven ways to become the king or queen of niceness. Seven simple things that can expand your network and create a wider pool of potential opportunities.
1. Be the Change: Show people what you believe life’s important things to be – don’t just tell them. If teamwork, supporting others, and a positive work environment are a high priority then show don’t tell. 2. Encourage Everyone: Everyone loves a pat on the back and to hear that they are doing a good job. Find ways to extend your heart and hand to those who need them. 3. Honor with Humility: Admit your mistakes and say the magic words: “I was wrong.” These words leave a better impact than “I’m Sorry.” Also when you are right be humble and don’t flaunt your “wins” and “successes.” 4. Thoughtfulness: Promise to think before you speak. Even when asked, give very little advice and let others take the lead and explain their plan and how to implement it. 5. Appreciation: Find daily ways to express appreciation and gratitude for everything people do to get the job done. 6. Patience: Let others know that everyone makes mistakes and deserves time to start over and do things again. Treat others with the same level of patience you’d hope someone would give to you. 7. Tolerance: Remove assumptions and see people for who they are and not what you expect them to be. Don’t just accept others. Instead make proactive strides to embrace them and make them feel part of the team. It’s time to bring niceness back! Think about it. You are far more likely to advance your career with kindness than by treating others poorly. This week brush up on your niceness and soon you’ll find that it is an effective professional tool to create change.
The Living on Purpose Project recently celebrated our 2nd anniversary on April 1, 2017. It was a great opportunity to celebrate where we have been and to get excited by what lies ahead. However, sometimes you reach a milestone yet don’t feel like you have anything to celebrate because you feel stuck.
The next time you are feeling like you are in a rut or in a place you don’t want to be – consider that you are in a professional holding pattern. Here are seven common career holding patterns and how to adopt a new perspective when facing them.
1. I hate my job:
Most people experience this feeling a few times throughout their lives, often early on and in the middle of their careers.
Turn your frustration into motivation by making a list of everything this crappy experience is teaching you about what not to do and what type of job you want to be sure to avoid moving forward.
2. I don’t know what I really want to do:
Start by reading the Living on Purpose Project interviews and posts (arranged by topic in our Archives). Then begin doing whatever you are interested in. Think you’d like a job as a social media specialist? Help a friend develop social media pages and posts for their small or new business. Sometimes you can improve your job satisfaction by simply doing more of what you love outside of the office.
3. I can’t make a lateral move into another dept or area:
Unfortunately, you may have to leave your current organization in order to be considered for a bigger and brighter opportunity. Companies of all sizes generally focus their time and energy on senior executives – making opportunities for everyone else non-existent.
4. I am in business for myself but can’t find any new clients or customers:
Schedule time to socialize. Social events are a great place to network professionally. Mix things up and hang with a new crowd of like-minded people. Doing so might be just the thing to clear you for takeoff into something new and put an end to your holding pattern.
5. I can’t find another job:
In today’s competitive landscape, you need to consider jobs that you are overqualified for and underpaid to do - at least initially. In time you can leverage that experience to find a bigger and brighter one. In the meantime, take time to review your resume and see if there are things that may actually be hindering you from getting hired. Does your resume demonstrate you are an industry “outsider” because of the lingo you use? Changing a few key words and adding more industry-related experience could help you stand out from the competition.
6. I want to launch my own business or take it to the next level but don’t have the money:
Start with a strong plan and a dynamic web site that highlights your work and experience, and helps you cast a wide net to find potential clients. However, the best way to raise the needed capital is to create a side-hustle while working for someone else.
7. I have tried many things to put myself out there but nothing seems to be working:
Be creative and persistent, and you may simply have to give it time. Many holding patterns are necessary – while the next great job or opportunity is waiting to present itself. Maximize your time waiting by staying focused on what you have learned that can be applied to your next move/opportunity.
Anniversaries and milestones are often fun but can sometimes be depressing and make us feel that we are not where we want/think we should be. This week consider that you may be exactly where you are supposed to be right now. Instead of feeling stuck or in a rut, think of it as a necessary holding pattern to prevent you from taking another job or opportunity that is not right for you. Keep positive, perfect your skills and your craft, and learn from your interactions with everyone you meet. Sooner than you think, that next opportunity you’ve been waiting for will present itself.
It has been said that 80% of conflict is a communications issue. I recently had a minor conflict with a neighbor that was caused from her literal and figurative inability to hear and understand what I was saying. This morning I thought that when it comes to life in general most things that disconnect people have to do with what and how things are said. It may sound silly but we all need to brush up on key types of communications. Check out these seven questions to see how you score on professional communications.
1. How do you ask for a raise or promotion? The biggest mistake people make in not getting a raise or promotion is lacking confidence and being “mousey.” Would you want to give more money to someone who can’t look you in the eye, use a firm and clear voice and command your attention and respect? No, you wouldn’t - so why should your current boss or potential future employer. 2. How do you introduce yourself? Do you have a memorable way of meeting people? If not, you should. Tell others that you mean business with your initial conversation and your first impression. You’ll get brownie points for making social connections i.e., asking questions or using body language such as nodding your head and smiling. I introduce myself as a master problem solver. 3. How do you present information and yourself? Whether it’s an interview or a PowerPoint presentation, the best way to “communicate” your knowledge and ability is to be prepared, knowledgeable, and on time. Always communicate the W.I.F.M. factor (What’s in it for me?) and K.I.S.S. (Keep it Simple for Stupid). This is certainly not insulting anyone nor their intelligence but rather a great idiom to remind you to be clear and concise. 4. How do you deliver an apology or explanation? Chances are whatever bad news you have to deliver – it’s best to go with a sincere ‘less is more’ approach. I have seen many people talk themselves out of an apology by focusing on themselves and not the other party. If you say or do something that you wish you hadn’t – speak on and move on.
But before you do, remember that people want to be heard, so shut up and listen. Equally, learn how to find a positive spin in any negative. It softens the blow and makes people associate you with something good. 5. How do you ask others to do things? It’s not what you say by truly how you say things. Period. Tone, volume, and frequency affects others. Follow a good rule of thumb – listen twice as much as you speak. 6. How do you relate to co-workers on a personal level? Your goal is not to be the party-girl or after hours guy, but it is good to connect with select colleagues who share common interests. Find ways to strike up neutral topics such as hobbies, work background, and pop culture (minus the politics). 7. How do you express thanks and appreciation to others?
Everyone achieves because of the help of others. Find ways to say more than a generic thanks to those who help you in big and small ways. >Communicate in clear and concise ways. This week practice new ways to ask for things and express what you experience. In time, you will be a seasoned pro at minimizing a lack of communication or misunderstanding.
Unfortunately, we have all had jobs that were great but we’ve also had several that sucked. If the writing on the wall says there is a strong chance that you and/or your position are on the chopping block, here are seven things to protect you and create leverage in your departure.
1. Connect with human resources, labor relations, and your employee “handbook.” Learn your rights (i.e., does the government agency allow all permanent employees to have up to a year before they can be let go). It’s always good to know starting every job if you can be fired “at will.” All companies are different but most can simply let you go whenever they want to. Understand your review process and if you have had previous positive evaluations of your performance; present a good argument as to why you believe it has changed. 2. Understand the politics: It could be as simple as your VP wants to hire her former colleague and friend to have your job – because that’s her friend. If it’s a personality issue, chances are it will never be resolved in your favor (especially if the conflict is with senior staffers). So dust off your “C.Y.A.” (Cover Your Ass) file that you should have started the moment you got hired. Every “great job” email and “thanks for the help” Post It, (and a copy) of anything positive that internal and external clients have said about you. It’s not too late; ask a current client and others to write a letter about your most recent successful project or general letter of reference. After you have the positive feedback, create a one page summary of your major accomplishments. 3. Document everything: In addition to your CYA file, you need to keep a DAILY log of all communications and connections with others. Did your SVP cancel your review meeting for the 5th time? Are you excluded from meetings? Anything and everything needs to be recorded. 4. Understand the other issues: Unfortunately even in 2017 people are still discriminated against because of their race, age, sexual orientation, gender, religion and much more. If you have solid evidence that this is much more than someone simply not “liking you.” Consult with an employment lawyer to help you better understand your legal options, but most likely to help negotiate your exit with the most money in your pocket. For example, let’s say you’ve worked at a job for the past two years and it’s simply not working out with your new SVP. An employment attorney may be able to guide you to help request and negotiate that the company will pay one week for every year and to NOT contest unemployment. 5. Strategize with professional mentors and contacts that might have knowledge and expertise of both the process and the key players: Truth is you may not want to or be able to pay a retainer and hire an attorney, but you can tap into the “intellectual property” of others. Cast a wide net and ask others for advice and even perhaps how they navigated the same or a similar situation. 6. Circle back with HR: Present all positive evaluations, feedback and input. Communicate your desire to explore potential ways that you can part ways from your employer. Unemployment benefits, extended healthcare or company paid benefits, outplacement services (i.e., help with resume and recruiters). 7. Walk Away: If you have tried all that you could with or without the advice of legal counsel, and you’ve gotten the best severance package you can get, take it and move on. At some point your happiness and freedom to find a new job that you love is worth so much more.
As you leave, work on developing the story you will tell to other professional contacts and potential employers.
It sucks to be fired even from a job that you hate. Even if you only have a couple of years of experience, you still may be able to get more than a “thank you and good luck to you.”
Brush up on your negotiation and networking skills and assemble a dream team to help assist you with a graceful “positive” exit.
Sometimes we’re doing the best we know how but career opportunities are not presenting themselves and we seem stuck in a similar or perhaps even the same place. Here are seven questions to guide you to understand and then make minor changes in how you approach, view, and do things.
1. How well do you think on your feet? You don’t have to be the person who talks simply to hear themselves speak, nor to say things simply because that’s what you think others expect. However, you need to practice and learn how to come up with AN idea or feedback when put on the spot. Being quick with your thoughts and solutions to problems will help make you appear as a credible expert and therefore a valuable asset in any industry or field. 2. Do you think happiness is a right or a choice? If you said choice, you’re correct. Experts have actually proven that feeling happy when it comes to our work life is a skill that must be cultivated. Yes, stuff happens but through meditation and mindfulness you can slowly learn how to keep things focused. 3. How do you strike and engage in a conversation? I once had a client who was extremely well educated, read and traveled. He was a nice guy often put his foot in his mouth or said really inappropriate comments in an attempt to be witty. Create “pick up” lines to engage potential influencers and professional contacts. 4. Are you a problem solver? I learned a very important lesson at my first job out of school – that if you bring a problem to your boss you must also bring a possible solution. This is one thing that separates the average janes/joes from the true professionals. Whether it’s your current coworker or boss, always have a potential way to address whatever you are expecting/asking someone else to solve. 5. How do you blow off steam and stress? Everyone needs healthy outlets to process and deal with stress. Without them - you can be your own worst enemy – and with them a great motivator. Take 30 minutes a day to walk, exercise or do a variety of things to feel more positive to rise and grind another day. 6. What do you do to be memorable? Imagine 100 people applying for the same job; statistics prove that less than 20 will stand out and/or be remembered. Find little ways to break through the clutter and differentiate yourself from competitors. Ask that great question or establish rapport by mentioning a shared friend or associate. 7. What are you willing to do without until you’re able to do the things you love? Embrace the fact that anything worth having takes effort and requires time. Which sacrifices are you willing to make? Dream big but work even bigger to do whatever is required to fulfill your dreams.
When we know better we do better. Now that you are aware of these small things you have (or have not) been doing – the more prepared you are not to let them hold you back the next time.
Now that the New Year is in full swing here are seven “must have’s” to turn a new career leaf in 2017.
1. Fill in the blank: Whatever your current or desired field is, be you need to have expertise in a specific segment. If you do social media: are you a strategy person or skilled at identifying and engaging influencers? It’s not just about working in one industry or field, but rather about becoming an expert at something that others value and need. 2. Writing: Over the past 20 years I have found that many people struggle with business writing. The trick is to keep your communications concise, using simple sentences and explain the only 5 questions that anyone ever wants to know: WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN AND WHY. Go online or sign up for a class, but work on making sure that you are comfortable with writing your ideas efficiently and effectively. 3. Negotiation: Check our “archives” to see what we recently posted about this critical skill and how to develop it. http://livingonpurposeproject.com/post/156036582629/january-18-2017-ask-patrice-when-it-comes 4. Salesmanship: There is a saying that salespeople are born, not made. However, we can all become more skilled at selling people on our ideas, vision and even ourselves by using some marketing 101 tactics and strategies – always remember to educate and not sell, and that even people who are looking to buy don’t want to feel a hard sell. 5. Perseverance: 80% of most things you attempt will not turn out exactly or even close to what you had planned - it’s called life. The sooner you embrace this fact the better life becomes. At many points in your career you MUST be willing to work longer, harder, better. Period. If not, step side and make way for those of us willing, ready and able to do the work at hand. 6. Humor: Everyone thinks they are funny - only a few are right. Of course, you think you have a great sense of humor but how can you test it out? Fine tune your ability to use wit and humor to really connect with and even disarm others. Remember humor is about being makings smart observations about people and life. If you need some ideas to put together your 10-minute comedy set, check out two of my favorite comedians – the late George Carlin and Chris Rock. 7. Keep your word: Following through on what you say allows you to always demonstrate (a practice) this core skill. The secret is to under promise and over deliver and make your personal and professional goal to be a person of your word. At the end of the day, people hire, partner with, and seek out those who are consistent and reliable. Work on your time management and keep yourself organized and soon you will find this is second nature.
Successful people have the necessary skills and mindset for success. Anyone can do it, once you know which skills and abilities will enable you to consistently be a rainmaker. This week, take a few minutes to access your current skills and set goals for making them sharper and savvier.
Since childhood you’ve heard at least one story about superheroes and their special powers. But has anyone ever taught you how to become your own superhero who saves the day in your career and life. Well, Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat Pray Love may have actually cracked the code. Here are seven ways to become your own heroic figure.
1. Answer the call: “If you want to be the hero of the story - you kinda gotta answer the call.” – Elizabeth Gilbert 2. Hold a mirror to your flaws: Seeing yourself clearly is the second step to becoming a hero. Heroes know who they are and what makes them special. Focus on the special powers you have and work on cultivating them. 3. Prepare yourself for peril: The only constant in life is change and challenges. Become a person who thinks three steps ahead, always has a plan “B” and will be prepared to successfully deal with adversity. Remember, it’s not IF difficult obstacles come along; it’s how you’ll respond WHEN they do. 4. Ride the wave: Superheroes know how to deal with a variety of situations but mostly they simply know how to ride the wave. In an opportunity, ride the wave/go with the flow and when the wave and movement and beautiful views end - so should you. But luckily you’ll have (or quickly create) a plan – to find and then ride another wave. 5. Take responsibility: Growth is about owning a part/role in any situation. Are you deathly afraid of speaking in front of others? Are you intimidated that others are better writers or simply smarter than you are? Own your shortcomings and learn how you can prevent something bad from happening again by being honest with yourself and others. 6. Never waste your suffering: Be empowered to use your mistakes and “failures.” However, there is no need to beat yourself up. When you can share your experiences and lessons with others to turn your misery into meaning. 7. Face fear: Facing your biggest fears head on – frees you. Heroes demonstrate courage – moving forward despite fear. Attack what scares you most and stop running from it. If you want to break into marketing, send out an updated resume that shows your pro bono consulting projects
Heroes help us in many ways, but becoming your own hero makes you qualified to not always have to rely on others to live and manifest a highly successful career. This week follow these simple steps to use a mirror to see your flaws and yourself clearly; bring you to your own attention; and tear down your walls.
I read a great quote about dogs that said that dogs are the only animal on the planet that love you more than they love themselves. Thought that was very powerful. Here are seven amazing professional lessons that my dog taught me about working with others.
1. Body language: 80% of most communication is actually non-verbal. So when in doubt “read” others to see if they are a threat to you. Observe everything – eye contact, stance, types of questions they ask (or lack thereof). 2. Solid business relationships are based on trust, loyalty, and respect: Associate with those who you can build, grind and hustle together. 3. Maintain clear boundaries and expectations give to others: Enough said! 4. Dog fights are ugly and intense but sometimes required: Some things are worth fighting for such as integrity, your professional worth, respect and what is rightfully yours. When your friends, family or your character is attacked turn fight with your words and actions. 5. Trust your instincts: Know when a person or situation seeks to harm or take advantage of you. You know when something does not look kosher, go the other way. Watch those showboating, lying or those saying things that just don’t add up. Hone your instincts by trusting that when you feel someone or something is not right in your gut – you’re probably right. 6. All dogs are different: Remember that everyone has a story that is deeper than the person who you see. Build relationships slowly and over time unpeel the layers of each person you encounter. 7. Learn new tricks: Despite your age or experience you can always hone and learn new ways to do things. Keep an open mind and you’ll find that there is something to be happy about daily. Share that happiness with others.
I have owned a dog since I was 7 years old and believe dogs will always be a part of my life. This week appreciate and reflect on the roles animals have played in teaching you some “human” life lessons. Or if you are not an animal person, try to appreciate and learn from them in other ways. Happy New Year!
Yesterday I turned on the TV at 5:30 a.m. hoping to find something inspirational to kick start my day that would officially start in about an hour. I stumbled upon an interesting piece on Gloria Steinem on OWN and it brought back a great memory of when I met Gloria Steinem because of a hand-written card.
While working for NBC, I met Carole Black when she was the President and General Manager of the NBC owned station in Los Angeles NBC4. Soon after, I heard that she took a job in NYC as the new President and CEO of Lifetime Television. I sent her a short “congratulations way to go” note and got a call back from her assistant about a week later. The assistant passed along Carole’s thanks and a special invite for me to be Carole’s “plus 1” at an upcoming 65th birthday party for Gloria Steinem at Phil Donahue and Marlo Thomas’ house! I guess CEO’s don’t get a lot of “congrats on your new gig and huge executive parachute plan” cards.
I will always remember so many things about that great night, such as the 39 other incredible guests and meeting and talking with a living legend. But what still amazes me is that this all happened because of a simple note.
Here are seven things that this unusual string of events in my life and a personal card and thank you note actually taught me about having a successful career. 1. At any moment, you can do something small to put a big opportunity into motion down the road.
2. Career success comes from cultivating professional and personal relationships. People want to work with people they know and like.
3. There are rich people, there are the wealthy people and there are people who are rich because how they have created, navigated and shared their life experiences. Everyone, including you, can be one, two, or hopefully all three.
4. Never underestimate the value of business and social etiquette (if you don’t
know it – learn it quickly.) Always remember please and thank you are words that have tremendous power.
5. Celebrities and accomplished professionals in many ways are not like everyday people. However, every human being needs to hear that others are proud of who they are, as well as what they do.
6. Seize every moment to network and learn from people, especially those who you may never see again. I met many people and business associates that day who have impacted my career.
7. Always bring your host a gift or small token of your appreciation. I brought Gloria Steinem a book of poetry, and even bravely gave her an original work of my own. I also sent Carole Black one darn nice thank you note for inviting me and proving such as great networking opportunity.
Find inspiration to tackle a new venture by first simply reflecting on something you’ve previously done that worked out better than you imagined, then take your first step toward doing this new thing. This week take a moment to reflect on these lessons learned and consider who you could send a “personal note” that might directly or indirectly help you experience something great?
Think of this as a wise, trusted friend passing you a “note” in 8th grade that you’ll want to read, digest, share and discuss with others. Here are seven non-traditional quotes that can literally change your life.
1. Life is not a dress rehearsal: We don’t control how long we have. But we each have 24 hours each day to make the most of whatever experiences and abilities that we do have. 2. Experiences prepare us to live more fully and make informed choices: Living with different people, places, customs and traditions creates confidence. The more diverse experiences we have the more we experience the “more” that life has to offer. 3. Advice is what you ask when you already know the answer but WISH it were different: Instincts are our mental muscles that we must stretch and continually use to guide us to make our own decisions and not react in fear or out of insecurity. 4. Life is a series of choices. You make a choice, and if things don’t work out, you simply make another choice: Living this way means you can never really fail. Make your own choices and live your own dreams! 5. Everyone struggles with something: Face whatever it is square in the face and turn your misery into meaning. Use your “something” to empower yourself and others. 6. Walk. Breathe. Repeat.: I recently heard Robyn Roberts say these three simple words that she used to say to herself as she battled cancer, not once, but twice. Crappy stuff happens to us all - so when it does find something that will encourage you to pick yourself up and keep moving. 7. Live. Love. Do. Don’t think it needs explanation, but live, loving what you do and doing what you love.
The holidays are around the corner and with them comes stress and issues (our own and others). During this last month of 2016, embrace one new way of thinking and you will certainly change your experiences, your circumstances, and your career.
You’re young and healthy and would never believe that stress can be slowing you down and blocking you from the job of your dreams. Mind/Body Balance isn’t hippie, new age stuff, but a proven method to help you make a successful professional transition and sustain an effective long-term life and career. It’s not too late to join our #LOPP30daychallenge, try some of these suggestions today.
1. You’re not sick you’re thirsty: Water for Health, for Healing for Life: You’re Not Sick You’re Thirsty by F. Batmanghelidj, MD is an interesting book with a basic premise – that water is the free “miracle” solution to the many things that ail you. Your body is comprised of about 65 percent water, which is needed for a number of physiological processes and biochemical reactions, including: blood circulation; metabolism; regulation of body temperature; waste removal and detoxification. Once your body has lost between one to two percent of its total water content, it will signal its needs by making you feel thirsty. However, by the time your thirst mechanism actually kicks in, you’re already in the early stages of dehydration, so you don’t want to ignore the initial sensations of thirst. In addition, hunger and sugar cravings, in particular, can also be a sign that your body is crying for water, so when you feel hungry, drink a glass of water first.
Doctors and nutritionists suggest that adults drink eight, 8-ounce glasses a day, but recent studies show the ideal amount varies from person to person. Water is also a natural preventative medicine and could also be an effective defense to address depression, headaches, obesity, and numerous other conditions and diseases that are related to persistent dehydration. If you don’t like the “taste” of water – get over it. Flavor your water with not just lemon and lime, but add mint, strawberries or even cucumber slices to your pitcher or water bottle. Regardless of how much water you currently drink, challenge yourself to drink two more glasses a day this week until you build up a healthy habit of eight to ten glasses every day. 2. Creating a daily practice: Practice, routines, and patterns are not only the way we learn how to do things, they are proven and speedy gateways to a successful life. Scheduling things at a certain time every day provides structure and discipline that indirectly creates effective time management. Starting the day by reading an inspirational message or taking 5 minutes of silence can not only offer a great motivation to kick start things it can also begin a pattern of accomplishment and ultimately success. Browse through a book of motivational quotes and/or stories or download one of many “quote of the day” apps. Let the daily topics guide you to find new energy and zest for life each and every day. Sure, things will happen and some days you’ll face challenges. Putting positivity in motion to not only counter negativity but also attract more positive energy and people throughout the day. 3. Create and embrace a personal and work mantra: No matter your industry or the stage of your career everyone needs a mantra to guide and remind you to stay positive in the face of adversity. Mantras are single words, phrases, or rhetorical questions that offer personal meaning and inspiration during tough life and career times. “Believe,” “don’t sweat the small stuff,” or “it has to be someone, why not me?” are more than just words when used the right way. Develop your own or borrow a favorite mantra from some of our Living on Purpose Project interviewees like, “fake it till you make it,” or “it’s all good.” My personal mental work/career go-to mantra is “if you’re not doing something every day to get what you want, how bad do you really want it?” This is not just about saying “warm and fuzzy” words to make you feel good at the moment but rather a proven long-term technique for creating positive change and accomplishments. If you don’t believe me, ask the countless famous athletes, business people, and entrepreneurs who use it every day! Find or develop three possible work mantras to try out this week when your boss or co-worker tries your patience or when you need a little boost to hang in there until change happens. 4. Practice power breathing to relieve stress and anxiety: Anxiety affects 40 million adults in the United States 18 and over, or 18 % of the population – according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. In addition, it’s not uncommon for people who experience anxiety to also experience depression or vice versa. The truth is, almost everyone experiences one or the other at some point in life – often triggered by stressful life events like losing a loved one or job, or dealing with chronic money problems. However, if you feel anxious and nervous much of the time, seek advice from an expert and try to adopt daily activities, such as taking deep breaths, power breathing, and yoga. Everyone gets even a little nervous before an interview or at a networking event, today read this Forbes article about these simple things that can have surprising results 5. Take a deep stretch and try yoga: Yoga is perhaps one of the best mind/body exercises to achieve mental and career balance. It stretches both your muscles and your mind simultaneously. Stretching is essential to circulation but is also a great way to jumpstart your day. Ever notice how dogs stretch every single time they get up. It’s an instinct and “trick” that many animals do that humans should learn. Take a class or simply try some exercises like the sun salutation (which you can find on YouTube) at home. Perhaps in time you’ll join people like Russell Simmons who credit it as a key to success in career and life. Today check out this article where Russell explains what yoga is all about and schedule a time to do a least one yoga class or routine (at home) before the end of the month 6. Introduce your mind to meditation: The first time I tried meditating more than 20 years ago, I hated it. It was nearly impossible for me to clear my mind, to literally think about “nothing.” I tried guided meditation, read books, took classes and even studied transcendental meditation for a while – yet I felt like a meditation “failure” and soon “dropped out.” A few years later, one day out of the blue I tried it again. However this time, I simply took away the “label” of calling it meditation and had a “breakthrough.”
When I stopped focusing on trying to “meditate” and started simply trying to quiet my mind for 5 minutes at a time I could do it. Soon I was able to add a second, and then third, 5-minute session and eventually could do 30 minutes a day. Take time to clear your negative and “busy” thoughts and replace them with deep breaths and positive ideas.
You don’t have to become a Zen master to tap into the power of meditation and release it’s calming, and stress relieving benefits. This week take 5 minutes to lie flat on the floor without any light or sound, and simply close your eyes and breathe. As random thoughts come into your mind, like a negative comment someone recently said, little questions such as what you’re going to have for dinner, or major issues like how you’re going to pay rent - acknowledge the thought then “push” it away. When a thought comes, simply take a breath, re-focus and try again. It doesn’t matter if these thoughts happen two or twenty times in 5 minutes; remember it is about progress and not perfection. 7. Visualize success: Many successful people talk about how they envisioned their success before they achieved it. I recently saw an interview of Taylor Swift a year after her first album became a mega hit. Someone asked her if fame and success was as she “imagined it” would be and she replied “yes, even better.” Who knows if she would say the same thing today? The point is that perhaps part of the reason why she (and others) achieved success is because she actually took time to “see” it happen. Positive visualization has been taught by everyone from religious leaders to coaches, and has been an incredible tool for millions of people throughout the world. Take time to “day dream” about the way your life will be when, not if, change happens. The next time you believe you won’t be able to do something, simply take 7 minutes to first visualize that it has already happened. Then say to yourself (over and over) that it WILL happen. Start with simple, less emotional things like making your bus or train. Instead of saying, “oh shoot I’m going to miss the train,” create a quick visual in your mind of arriving to the station in the nick of time and taking a seat as the train or bus leaves. Then as you hustle and travel to get there, keep repeating to yourself “I WILL make the train, I WILL make the train, I WILL make the train.” And, 80 % of the time you WILL make it!
Some argue that success is more about mental focus, your “head game” and perseverance, and less about talent and opportunity. Your mind/body skills are just as important as other abilities and skills related to succeeding in your industry or career. Think about this. If you go on an interview feeling anxious or depressed, or thinking or visualizing “I’m unqualified and won’t get the job” – I guarantee you won’t get the job! But with a positive attitude you have a real chance. Today, ask yourself if even you would hire yourself based on the way you think and your mental approach to things right now? If the answer is no, try some of these ideas and activities to change that answer and become the person that anyone would hire in a heartbeat.
Rachel Piatczyc, event consultant, real estate agent and photographer, on finding courage to make changes; discovering a common thread in the things you love; fearing success (not failure); and being a “Jill” and master of all trades.
It’s October 1, summer’s over and it’s back to your daily grind. You have exactly 93 days to either start off 2017 with a new job that you love or head into the New Year doing the same old thing. What will you choose? We hope that you are ready, willing and able to make a change and will join us on October 5 when we’ll launch the first Living On Purpose Project 30-Day Career Readiness Challenge. Whether you are looking to change industries, move up in your current career/position; or are planning to switch things up in the near future - this monthly event will help you break the cycle and take concrete steps towards your dream job.
Each week will focus on non-traditional ways to advance your level of career readiness, as well as daily activities that you can do (most in 7 minutes or less) to help practice and master a core key skill. Here’s a sneak peek of what we have planned: October 5: Seven Surprising Ways to Get LinkedIn to Work for You Two people join LinkedIn every second. Here are seven surprising ways that people are using LinkedIn as an interactive tool to find job leads, get the attention of recruiters and hiring managers and effectively promote themselves professionally. October 12: Compelling Conversation with Rachel Piatczyc Who says that you have to pick just one job or career that you love? This month we’re talking to Rachel Piatczyc who shares her secrets to creating a multi-faceted career. We’re also offering a sidebar post on October 16 about three ways to create and not wait for opportunities. October 19: Seven Things You Never Imagined Could Help Get You Hired in a Hurry Tired of sending your resume out with no response? Are you finding that all the traditional ways to find a new job are not working? We’re spilling the tea on seven surprising things that can help you land a job quickly. October 26: Seven Ways Mind/Body Balance Can Help You Succeed (And Why It’s Not B.S!) You’re young and healthy and might never believe that stress can be slowing you down and blocking you from the job of your dreams. Mind/Body Balance isn’t hippie, new age stuff, but a proven method to help you make a successful professional transition and sustain an effective long-term life and career.
Growing up in Ukraine Darya Kulyk’s experiences were different from many children living in the U.S., and her opportunities were very limited. She excelled in her classes and was involved in the school newspaper and student government. Darya succeeded at almost everything she did but she soon discovered that having diverse talents actually made it more difficult, and not easier, to realize her true passions and ultimate career interest.
Doing many things well also taught her an important lesson about life at a young age. Darya says that she always noticed the way that others, mostly girls, reacted to her success. Being a top finalist for almost everything caused many people to act jealous towards her. And, while some kids in her position might have shied away from the spotlight to fit in or be liked, Darya just dealt with it. She kept doing the things she liked and stayed involved in the things she did well. In realizing, and more importantly in accepting, that everyone is not going to “like you,” Darya has learned to navigate life doing what she likes regardless of how others feel about it.
Can you share one specific risk that you took that didn’t go as planned, but you don’t regret?
I look at everything as an opportunity, so I don’t really regret anything that I’ve done. However, looking back I wonder how a couple of things would have worked out if had I done them differently. For example, after high school, I immediately started working for a couple of years to find out what I wanted to do. Later, when I went to college I felt like I knew everything or at least enough to make my own decisions, and so I didn’t consult with anybody about anything I was doing. In hindsight, I think now how I could have used the five years in college more efficiently if I had asked others for advice and suggestions.
Other times, I think what might have happened had I pursued science or math, instead of a liberal arts degree. When I applied to graduate schools, I thought about these things thinking that perhaps if I had a more substantial background and a different undergraduate degree; it would have been more useful. But I don’t regret studying media and communications. Working in marketing, I’ve found it very useful and important to have a lot of different skill sets. At the end of the day, I pursued what I liked – a little bit of everything. So instead of thinking about whatever “might have been,” I think that things worked out the way they were supposed to and I guess that’s what really matters.
Coming from Ukraine to the U.S. you had to create opportunities. How did you figure out what steps to take? And, what’s your advice to someone who is in a similar position?
When I came to New York, I didn’t even have a resume. One day I sat down and wrote out everything I knew how to do.
My goal was to send out 50 resumes a day, so that’s what I did.
I used Craigslist like crazy. I sent my resume anywhere and everywhere, even newspaper ads, which matched positions I was looking for, even if it was just a tiny bit.
Being an immigrant doesn’t really give you a lot of time to “weigh your options” because like everyone else you have to make a living. I knew I did not want to wait tables so I started looking into office assistant positions and luckily I got one as soon as I came here after high school. It was a small office but it gave me a lot of experience with the Internet, e-commerce, working on business proposals and much more.
As a young professional woman and wife, how do you navigate focusing your attention on yourself and your career?
My husband recently decided to make a 180 in his career and go into medicine. He is going to be an anesthesia nurse. The past two years, he has been in a very rigorous program that been challenging for both of us.
I came to a point in my life when I realized that I wasn’t happy. Something was bothering me. I was becoming an accessory to what his [my husband’s] goals were. I asked myself, “If I were alone right now, what would I want to do in my life?” Right away the answer came, “to go back to school.” So I talked to my husband and realized this could be the perfect time to do it. I thought hey, we can even study together. So applied and (got accepted to) Baruch’s MS program.
If you’re not happy or something is not going the way that you would like, do something about it now. Don’t wait for better or perfect conditions, they may never come.
Do you have any tips to help anyone consistently stand out in professional situations?
Organization and attention to detail is key and extremely important. In any professional environment, which includes school, do your research. Research your boss, a professor, or the field you’re studying or want to work in. It will help you feel more comfortable in your new environment. Doing anything new is always uncomfortable because it’s unfamiliar. Having prior knowledge and feeling prepared is critical when trying something new and different.
At work, I think I stand out by being organized and prepared. This includes the little things like following up after a conversation, or reviewing emails and making notes of things I’ll look into further. It’s looking at everything because, more than likely, it’s the one little detail that can be or make a very important difference.
Do you consider yourself a competitive person? If so, how does that affect your life and career choices?
I am competitive and like competition. However, I don’t like losing [laughter]. Nobody does, but losing is part of playing any “game.” I’m learning that the more serious the “competition,” the higher the chance you may actually lose. But that’s okay, because sometimes the higher the risk – the higher the reward.
But you have to be in the game, participate and just try. While you may not win the entire match, you’ll be more prepared than you were before you tried, and you’ll have gotten something out of it because you did something you like.
In high school, I worked hard but my academic life and many other things came very easy to me. Later in life, however, I didn’t always feel “prepared” or that things came as easily as I juggled many challenges in other areas of my life and career.
Do you think you can be competitive and also supportive of your professional peers/colleagues?
Absolutely. Never be afraid to compliment someone and to tell them how good they are, even for the tiniest little thing. It may not be important to you but it can be huge to another person. Everyone needs to be acknowledged for something good. It may sound overly simplistic but it’s also smart to be kind and friendly to people.
What is the biggest lesson learned from someone’s unconventional or quiet wisdom?
Everyday I watched a former colleague demonstrate that you can be knowledgeable, but you shouldn’t throw your advice at people if they didn’t ask for it.
You might believe or confidently know more than someone else, but if they didn’t ask for advice or suggestions – don’t just give it to them. If somebody asks you for help then certainly go all out. But if not, keep your mouth shut.
About Darya Kulyk:
Darya Kulyk works full time as an account manager at Rewards Network. She is also a full-time graduate student pursuing her MS degree in Marketing Analytics at the Zicklin School of Business of Baruch College. Darya has created a successful career working for several small to medium size businesses in NYC holding various administrative and managerial positions. She is “Living on Purpose” by enjoying life’s challenges and embracing each one as an opportunity to learn. Darya has a BA in Media Studies and minor in Economics from Hunter College. Follow Darya on LinkedIn at Darya Kulyk.
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We all have a purpose. Yet only less than 20% of us discover it and live it. Now that Summer has ended and you’re getting back to your grind and routine, here are seven simple questions that might offer the “aha!” moment you’ve been looking for to find or create your next career move.
1. What types of relationships drive you? A good place to start when thinking about what you were born to do begins not at looking at yourself, but at who or what you like working with. Are you someone who is motivated by groups or do you like working alone? Are you energized by working with kids or animals or a place where you don’t have to interact with anyone at all? Clarity regarding who you like working with and where you thrive can help you uncover your purpose. 2. When do you feel in your element and get that feeling that this is what I was born to do? There some things that come to us so naturally it’s like second nature. For natural leaders, no one ever had to tell them how to motivate and lead people they just knew. What have you always done naturally? Are you most comfortable when you cheer others on or are when you are given a problem to fix? 3. Where does your satisfaction and success intersect? There are things we like doing and then there are areas where we excel. For most people our “purpose” relates to where these two arenas meet. You may love doing something, but it may be something that you don’t do well. Do what you love and find ways to practice and increase your level of skill. Sometimes that extra focus and practice makes all the difference. For example, Michael Jordan was cut from the Junior Varsity basketball team, but practice and dedication helped him became one the best players of all time. However, there are things that, despite our dedication, are simply not something thing that we excel at doing. If that’s the case, we then should explore other pursuits. Remember that even Michael Jordan never became a phenom at baseball. 4. What motivates you to get out of bed? Some people are driven by the chance to help others while other individuals are motivated by solving problems? Are you drawn to learning new things or are you inspired by developing expertise in one area? Know what motivates you, and why? 5. What are your talents that you are willing to invest in? Where do you spend your time and money? Chances are the things you choose to invest your financial and other resources doing is something that you are really passionate about. 6. What’s your reoccurring topic of conversation? We all are passionate about certain causes and ideas, what are yours? I am deeply dedicated to empowering others to explore and live their passions and purpose. I also strongly believe in all people, especially women, becoming financially educated and independent.
And, I believe that all children need to be encouraged and supported to become the people who they were born to be. No matter where I am and who I meet, my conversations (even with strangers) tend to focus on one of these topics. 7. What do you do when you don’t know what to do? When you feel stuck, in a rut, or confused about which path to take, what is your “go to” move? I often turn to yoga, prayer and meditation, find ways to connect with nature, and talk to friends and family about my current feelings. Knowing the positive people and things that you turn to for answers can be a huge step in starting the process of change.
Making a career change begins with asking yourself big questions. This week, pick just one of these seven questions to help you gain clarity about not just what you love, but why you love it. Questions can empower you to create a new way of thinking, which in turn can help change what you do and perhaps even reveal that “thing” that you were born to do.
Sometimes we do all the right things: exceed in our current jobs, continue our education or take a class to learn a new skill, but despite our best efforts, things still don’t go our way. Here are a few things to think about when you’re doing everything “right” but things are still going very “wrong.”
1. You can be everything you’re supposed to be but not everything you want to be:
Hopefully while you were growing up someone told you that you could be anything you wanted to be. Although very encouraging, this is, unfortunately, not true. I want to sing like the late Whitney Houston but no matter how hard I try that will never happen. We each need to spend time discovering what natural skills and abilities we were given and find ways to cultivate them and use them in how we work and what we do. Sometimes you may be pursuing something that you’re just not meant to do or be.
2. It’s time for you to do your own thing:
Many successful businesses are started by people who were once unemployed or unable to find the ideal job for them - so they created their own.
Everyone has a “lotto” business idea i.e., the type of company or business they’d love to have if money was not a factor. What’s yours? Often there is never a perfect opportunity to start an entrepreneurial venture. Sometimes that thing that you’re supposed to do falls into place when you create a plan, believe in yourself and just take the leap of faith.
3. You need to work smarter - not harder:
You’re inability to advance in your line of work or change careers may have less to do with what you’re doing and more to do with how you’re approaching things. For example, you might be spending two hours a day posting your resume to job boards like
when you should be spending six hours every day reaching out everyone you know (and everyone they know) to expand your professional contacts and find job leads. Remember that about approximately 80% of workers get hired or selected for opportunities because of a personal contact or reference.
4. Life isn’t fair - but the universe is:
Sometimes we are more qualified, more capable and more talented than the person who gets the job. Learning to accept what we can’t change is a continuous life lesson that we all have to learn. Remind yourself that no one ever achieved anything great with negative thoughts and energy. Forget excessive time wondering why someone got something that may have been rightfully yours and instead focus on what you can do and what else the universe has planned for you.
5. You need to hone your craft:
There are many reasons why you might not be hired for your dream job, but there’s no reason for you to lack experience in the field/area in which you want to work. Expand your experience by working for free, helping others with their new business ideas, taking a class, and doing just about anything and everything to get your side hustle on! Everyone, especially those looking to make a career transition, needs a side venture or hustle – so start yours today.
6. You think you are ready but you’re really not:
When it comes to career, your skill sets and are not the only things you need to master. Sometimes what’s holding us back is ourselves. Spend time each week honing your judgement or your ability to “read” people and situations, and even how to play office politics.
7. Something better awaits you:
Things might not be working out the way you would like because something better is waiting for you. What you think is your “dream job” could actually be “peanuts” in comparison to the perfect opportunity that you are meant to have. Some things in life and career are simply a matter of timing. Be patient and make the most of the time spent waiting for that bigger and brighter opportunity to appear.
The first line in the classic M. Scott Peck book, The Road Less Traveled is “Life is Difficult.” Life however can become at bit easier to navigate when you accept this reality and learn to take inventory in what you really enjoy and were born to do. This week take a second look at something that recently did not work out the way you would have liked – and consider these seven ideas to work on moving forward with a fresh perspective.
When I was in my late 20s, I started asking myself what I really wanted to “be when I grew up.” I hoped and believed that I was not the only person to feel that way, so I started reading books, taking classes and making up exercises. Eventually I created a course to help others who were wondering the same thing. At the time I didn’t have any “real” teaching experience, was unemployed and had no idea exactly how I was going to do this. So I just tried anything I could think of. I called people I knew and asked for contacts and ideas, researched what to include in my course proposal. I then made “cold calls” and sent my proposal to NYU, Columbia University, and The Learning Annex – in less than 7 months that “proposal” became a successful seminar, called “How to Turn Your Passion into Your Profession,” which I taught at NYU for more than a decade!
If you are feeling frustrated in your current job or profession you are not alone. Throughout our lives, we all have periods where we seek more from our work. So as you wonder what “that thing” is that you were born to do (and be) - here are seven things to inspire you to do to create change and to remind you that you not the only one to feel this way.
1. Unhappiness on the job affects 25% of the American work force according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. Happiness is a choice not a circumstance. Challenge yourself to find three things that you look forward to every day even if one is the coffee guy who always greats you with a smile or remembers your name. []
2. 25% of people view their jobs as the number one stressor in their lives says the National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health. Develop routine ways like exercise, meditation, or even deep breathing to relieve stress you experience in and outside of work. 3. The book The Power of Uniqueness reveals that 70% of people are neither motivated nor competent to perform the basics of their job. Alter the parts of your job that you can change. For example, if you normally return calls at the end of day when you’re tired and mentally checked out - return them on the morning when you’re fresh and have more energy. 4. 43% percent of employees feel anger toward their employers often or very often as a result of being overworked according to the New York Families and Work Institute. Find constructive ways to discuss your workload and how it’s affecting you with your boss.
However, when you bring up the topic, first take time to think of what he/she might be able to do to rectify the situation. Remember, it’s easy to complain about what doesn’t work but far more effective to offer a possible solution to every problem you bring to the table. 5. 70% of us dread Monday’s and dream of Fridays. No one wants the weekend to end but there is a big difference between dread and disappointment. If you dread your job - start doing just one thing every day to work toward getting a new one. 6. According to a recent Gallop poll only 13% of the American workforce are emotionally invested in helping their organization improve/achieve its goals. You spend at least160 hours a month working; shouldn’t it be related to something you believe in or that interests you. 7. Most people - 80% according to a Deloitte shift index survey - “hate” or are dissatisfied with their jobs. Know what you’re great at and work toward doing it. Remember, if you don’t have a passion there are plenty of people who will hire you to work toward theirs.
Many people don’t like their current job but only a few muster the courage to change careers. This week make the decision to drop the “grin and bear it” attitude and embrace an “I can find or create my dream job” point of view. Try just one thing a day … make a call, connect with a former boss on LinkedIn or talk to a mentor or therapist. One slight mind shift and one simple action can help you become one of the 20% of people who find love and purpose in what they do.
I have had people literally apologize for things I never knew had occurred, so chances are your supervisor may not know every detail. After the conversation, outline and/or draft a brief summary of the obvious “mistakes” and what you and others will do in the future to prevent it from happening again. 
Call your credit card company and explain that you saw another credit card with a much lower interest rate and are thinking of transferring your current balance to another company. Many financial institutions will offer you a lower rate on the spot. If they don’t, ask to speak to a supervisor in the “loyalty” department. Remember, saving even 2% off your current interest rate can translate into more than a hundred dollars over the course of the year. 
In time, these colleagues and contacts will proactively recommend you for future positions and opportunities. Here are seven ways to become the king or queen of niceness. Seven simple things that can expand your network and create a wider pool of potential opportunities.
You’ll get brownie points for making social connections i.e., asking questions or using body language such as nodding your head and smiling. I introduce myself as a master problem solver. 
So dust off your “C.Y.A.” (Cover Your Ass) file that you should have started the moment you got hired. Every “great job” email and “thanks for the help” Post It, (and a copy) of anything positive that internal and external clients have said about you. It’s not too late; ask a current client and others to write a letter about your most recent successful project or general letter of reference. After you have the positive feedback, create a one page summary of your major accomplishments. 
However, you need to practice and learn how to come up with AN idea or feedback when put on the spot. Being quick with your thoughts and solutions to problems will help make you appear as a credible expert and therefore a valuable asset in any industry or field.
Remember, it’s not IF difficult obstacles come along; it’s how you’ll respond WHEN they do.
When your friends, family or your character is attacked turn fight with your words and actions. 
I sent her a short “congratulations way to go” note and got a call back from her assistant about a week later. The assistant passed along Carole’s thanks and a special invite for me to be Carole’s “plus 1” at an upcoming 65th birthday party for Gloria Steinem at Phil Donahue and Marlo Thomas’ house! I guess CEO’s don’t get a lot of “congrats on your new gig and huge executive parachute plan” cards.
The more diverse experiences we have the more we experience the “more” that life has to offer. 
Once your body has lost between one to two percent of its total water content, it will signal its needs by making you feel thirsty. However, by the time your thirst mechanism actually kicks in, you’re already in the early stages of dehydration, so you don’t want to ignore the initial sensations of thirst. In addition, hunger and sugar cravings, in particular, can also be a sign that your body is crying for water, so when you feel hungry, drink a glass of water first. 
What have you always done naturally? Are you most comfortable when you cheer others on or are when you are given a problem to fix?
I then made “cold calls” and sent my proposal to NYU, Columbia University, and The Learning Annex – in less than 7 months that “proposal” became a successful seminar, called “How to Turn Your Passion into Your Profession,” which I taught at NYU for more than a decade!